Navigating a 40% Salary Share with My Mom – Is It Fair?
I’m 16, the youngest and only daughter in my family. I have three older brothers, two of whom are working, and one still in college. Our single mom has been supporting me financially and paying bills while also investing in my education.
Recently, she proposed an interesting plan: she’d invest in my future by funding voice/acting/modeling lessons to help me build a better career. In return, she wants 40% of my future salary or prize money from contests. She even plans to formalize this in a contract to protect both of us financially. She says her savings will eventually go to me when she passes away.
My brothers think 40% is too high and unreasonable. My mom has had a tough life and worries she missed out on things because of raising us. She’s afraid I’ll neglect her like my brothers might. I want to support her, but 40% feels like a lot.
What do you think? Is this a fair arrangement, or should I negotiate?
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One day, my mother offered to invest in my future by providing me with skills (by investing in voice/acting/modeling lessons, etc.) to lead me to a better lifestyle when I have my career. However, she proposed that 40% of my future salary/prize money in contests would go towards her expenses and to allow her to experience things she missed out on while raising us, and she intends to formalize this arrangement in a contract to protect both of us financially. Additionally, she plans for her savings to be passed on to me when she passes away eventually.
When I shared this plan with my brothers, they disagreed, considering the percentage too high and unreasonable. My mother has endured significant hardships in her life, and she worries that if not for us, she might have had a better life. She becomes upset when I hesitate to agree, fearing that I might follow in my brothers' footsteps and not support her. She often shares her past experiences of giving everything to her parents, only to be abandoned when she needed help. Despite my efforts to reassure her, she worries that I will eventually neglect her as my brothers have. I really need help in making a decision, Thank you for your opinion #RomanticRelationships
