our rhododendron: old roots, new blooms, and neighborhood debates
Every spring, when our rhododendron bursts into color, I’m transported back to my childhood. My mother would point out the first buds, her hands gentle but sure, teaching me the patience that gardening demands. Back then, it was about family, tradition, and the quiet pride of nurturing something together.
But times have changed. My daughter prefers quick-growing succulents and bold, modern planters. She laughs at my careful pruning, insisting that wild, natural gardens are better for the bees and the planet. Our neighbors are split—some cherish the classic, orderly rhododendrons that line our street, while others push for native wildflowers and eco-friendly yards.
Here in the Pacific Northwest, rhododendrons are almost a rite of passage. They thrive in our damp, cool springs, but last year’s heatwave left many bushes scorched and brown. Some folks say it’s time to adapt, to let go of these old favorites and plant hardier, drought-resistant varieties. Others, like me, cling to the memories and the beauty, even if it means hauling out the hose on hot afternoons.
Our HOA sent a letter last month, warning against ‘overgrown shrubs’ and ‘unapproved colors.’ I can’t help but wonder—should we follow the rules, or fight for the freedom to plant what we love? Is a garden about fitting in, or standing out?
I’d love to hear your stories. Do you stick with tradition, or embrace the new? Have you faced pushback from your community? Let’s talk about what we’re growing—and why it matters, especially as the seasons change and our gardens become battlegrounds for old and new ideas.
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