Jennifer Christensen+Followis giving up your last name supposed to feel this heavy?Just hit the “name change” question on our marriage license app and totally froze. I always thought I’d be fine giving up my last name—heck, I even said I would years ago. But when it got real? I felt like I was erasing a huge part of who I am. My fiancé really wanted me to take his name, and I love him to pieces, so I agreed. But when it came time to actually do it, I panicked. Ended up moving my last name to a second middle name, but I’m still grieving it days later. He’s trying to be understanding but I know it stung. Does anyone else feel this way?? Like, is there a name-change grief chart I missed? #marriagethoughts #identitycrisis #namechangefeels30Share
heartwisehelen+Followis marriage just two people tolerating each other?Saw someone share this take and kinda shocked by how real it felt. Curious what y’all think: 📌 “I’m nearly 40 and stopped believing in talking it out. At this age, we’re too tired to argue—why not just skip it?” Some thoughts from her POV: 1️⃣ Respect and teamwork matter, but not every fight is worth the energy. 2️⃣ Young couples try to fix everything. Older ones just want peace. 3️⃣ Constant emotional giving feels risky—what if love runs dry? 4️⃣ She prefers writing over face-to-face talks to avoid drama. 5️⃣ If communication doesn’t lead to change, why keep trying? 6️⃣ Some problems were set from the start—personality, money, habits. To her, marriage isn’t perfect. It’s “not great, not bad, just enough.” 💬 Do you agree or is this just giving up too soon? #marriagethoughts #realrelationships #communication186Share
markross+FollowDeeply in love but struggling with desire...My wife and I have been married for 10 years. She’s an incredible partner—loving, kind, supportive. I truly love her and can’t imagine life without her. But lately, I’ve been struggling with physical desire. I still have a high sex drive in general, but when it comes to her, it’s just… not the same. I got in shape, tried everything I could think of. Nothing changed. I’ve blamed it on age or stress, but deep down I’m confused and worried. I don’t want to hurt her—I just want to understand what’s going on with me. Has anyone else felt this way in a long-term relationship? #marriagethoughts #intimacystruggles #needadvice70Share
