OasisOrchid+FollowFIRE'd at 35: Lost Status, Awkward Favors, and Too Much Free Time! 😩Hey friends, I FIRE'd myself five years ago at 35, thinking early retirement would be a dream come true. The freedom is real, but I never expected the downsides to hit so hard. The biggest shock? Losing social status. I went from making six figures to trying a barista job for fun, but I quit in a month. Dealing with picky customers for low pay just felt wrong after years of being respected in my field. Now, neighbors ask me to help with chores all the time—"since you’re not working anyway!" It’s exhausting and honestly, a little humiliating. Without a job, my days lack structure. I stay up late, waste time, and sometimes spiral in my own thoughts. Dating is awkward too—people either don’t get it or treat me like a stay-at-home spouse. I’m really struggling with this new identity and could use some advice from anyone who’s been through it. How do you find balance and keep your self-worth after leaving the workforce? 😕 #JobCareer #FIREJourney #WorkplaceIdentity92Share
CharmingChaos+FollowRetired Tech Manager Struggles With Identity Crisis After Leaving Work! 😱Hey friends, it’s been two years since I retired early from my tech management job, and honestly, I’m still struggling. I spent 30 years building my career, and overnight, it felt like my whole identity vanished. Suddenly, no one cared about my experience or what I did. My old work friends moved on, and I felt completely lost. 😔 My wife is still working and saving, while I’m trying to fill my days with hobbies and the occasional side gig. But the loss of purpose and the weird shift in our financial habits is really throwing me off. I miss feeling needed and respected at work, and it’s hard to adjust to this new normal. Has anyone else gone through this? How did you find your footing again after leaving a long career? I’d really appreciate any advice or stories you can share. 🙏 #CareerTransition #RetirementStruggles #WorkplaceIdentity148Share
