My Husband Won't Talk About Our Third Baby 😢💔

Sitting in our Chicago apartment at 10 weeks pregnant, I'm feeling so alone. My husband Jake and I already have two little ones - Emma (2) and baby Ryan who's only 8 months old. We'd always talked about having three kids, but this pregnancy wasn't planned. 😰 When I first told Jake about the positive test, he held me tight and said everything would work out. But the moment I decided I couldn't go through with terminating, he completely shut down. Now he won't even acknowledge I'm carrying his child! 💔 He was such an amazing partner during my pregnancy with Ryan - rubbing my feet, talking to my belly, picking out nursery colors. This silence is breaking my heart. I keep wondering if he'll ever get excited about this baby or if I'm facing this journey alone. Has anyone else been through this? Did your partner eventually come around? I just need some hope right now. 🙏✨ #UnplannedPregnancy #FamilyStruggles #PregnancySupport #FamilyRelationships

Chicago, Illinois • 2025-06-25

She-babe

My guess is he's a bit overwhelmed with the idea of providing for 3 children under 2. Hopefully he'll warm up to the idea but after you deliver this child, you need to practice some form of birth control.

29d

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Gail B

Jake knew there would be a possibility this could happen. If he says he didn't, he needs to go back to school because he missed sex ed class somewhere along the way. I get that this wasn't planned, however it's happening now. So he needs to suck it up and be a man. You need his support. He needs to quit acting childish and immature. Unless he's doing something underhanded that is the reason for being like he is.....he should be talking to about what's going on with him. You're not a mind reader. Good luck and congrats! 🙏

30d

South Hutchinson, KS

BichirBabe

our second was an unplanned birth control baby.... we pulled out and I had am iud....still i ended up pregnant when our first was 18 months....my partner was understandably shocked and scared and d. all the above.... but he came around after the first ultrasound that looked like a baby.... now that child is 17 months and the 2 of them are buddies till the end.... hopefully your partner comes around when it becomes tangible for him

29d

Southampton, PA

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Just me

he will get more excited when he can actually feel the baby move or see your bump. right now, he's focusing on the kids who are already there. give him time. it wasnt planned and he's in shock. it's still so early on. let the shock wear off.

29d

Helen Showard

He probably is overwhelmed but it’s not like you planned it. If he didn’t want more at this time then he should have been using protection.

29d

Boston, MA

Debbie K

Have any of you esp the dad considered this precious baby in utero has been created by God to live on this earth. No one has the right to terminate this life.

13d

Desert Hot Springs, CA

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Marly D

I feel for you- it’s going to be hard some days with 3 tiny tots. But baby Ryan will be so much older when the new baby comes, you’ll see. I would be more concerned about your kids not getting enough individual attention after the baby comes. Develop a support system besides your guy. Relatives, friends, neighbors, mom groups online can all be invaluable during this time, if you don’t have a tribe - start one now. They’ll help with your man too. Good luck!

27d

Las Vegas, NV

Maryellen Murphy

While you're pregnant is the perfect time for him to get a vasectomy. The rest will work out, in time, but you're obviously very fertile together and don't need the stress of another unplanned pregnancy. I wish you the best, all 5 of you.🙂

14d

Casa Grande, AZ

DSchwartz

Hoping he will adjust without treating this child differently. Give a bit of time then explain you and HE created this child together.

29d

Greensburg, PA

Alice Vemeyer

maybe condoms or some form of birth control should have been involved. you play, you pay.