RogueRavenMy girlfriend is pregnant, but I haven't graduated yet, and our life goals have become different🤯🤦♂️
My girlfriend (35F) and I (26M) have been together for 8 months, and now she’s pregnant. The age gap didn’t bother us at first, but now every conversation feels like a battle. She wants the baby—her friends and family are all in. Me? I’m not ready, emotionally or financially. I wanted to finish my Masters, get a remote job, and THEN start a family. Now, we’re arguing constantly. I can’t help but wonder: does she trust me to be there, or is she just pushing her own timeline? I even caught myself wanting to check her phone—something I swore I’d never do. She says we should decide together, but it feels like my opinion only counts if I agree with her. I’m angry, confused, and honestly, a little scared. Have you ever felt like your partner’s private space is suddenly off-limits, but you’re dying to know what’s really going on? How do you rebuild trust when everything feels so shaky? Please, tell me I’m not alone in this mess. 😵💔🤷♂️ #TrustIssues #RelationshipStruggles #PregnancyDrama #RomanticRelationships
2025-06-06
T.L. Sarcasm
Young man....you have two distinct issues here. Your relationship with your girlfriend sounds like it's run its course. She is aware of your educational and work goals, so I recommend you finish them. Whatever you do, don't marry someone because they are pregnant, marry for love. Your bitterness is clear, but you failed to put a sock on it. So admit your obvious complicity, get a DNA test to confirm parentage. Next is your future off spring. Congratulations, you have to decide what your future involvement is going to be. You can be an absent father or into it 50-50. Life has a way of sorting things out.
06-06
Lincoln City, Oregon
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Alex Madl
That woman is 35. She'll want that baby with or without you. It may be her last chance. Stay. raise your child. You made it. Raise it. Children need fathers.
06-06
Webb City, MO
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Antonia Webb
Sometimes we play stupid games & win stupid prizes!
You have a life to consider, so you now have to plan your future around that. Be prayerful as you go forward. You can work & go to school. Hard but doable.
06-06
Hephzibah, GA
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Ashley sippola
You're about to find out what real love is. Nothing will matter more. You can still walk your path it will just have a little human included.
06-07
Lone Rock, WI
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Lynn Favre
trap trap trap. she's older, knew better. Don't marry her way too soon. continue with your plans. she knew your plans b4 hand. IS THE BABY YOURS. if she's being secretive about things. There's a reason she's keeping things from you
06-07
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Marnita lataille
You need to suck it up and take care of your child.If you were not ready for children maybe you should have used proction. It's not always the woman's job to use proction. You can support your girlfriend and child. But you can always finish school
06-07
Keizer, OR
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Monika
Run run run!!! She planned it and snared you, a naive younger man. Tell her you will never marry her, you will continue your studies and if you have no money, little help will come her way. If she’s older she should be stable and set in her finances, let her pay since she must think of herself as an all powerful woman.
06-06
Miami, FL
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Annjaleena XXO
you don't have to marry her, leave and send some support when the child is born. she may have entrapped you since he baby monitor was ticking at her age. you can walk away until she takes you to court..🌸
06-06
Mesquite, TX
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Cheetara_Thundercat
Oh kiddo, you should have been more careful! You can't force her to have an abortion, so if you two conceived and she doesn't want to terminate, that's that. You can certainly end the intimate relationship though, that's your right. And you can choose to have nothing to do with the baby, if/when it comes. You still have an obligation of support though because she didn't create life alone. 🤷♀️
06-06
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Barbara Brooker
🤔🤔you don't have to marry if you're not ready. you can get a DNA test to be sure the baby is yours. you will be paying child support if the child is yours. you can work and go to school at the same time, many people do it. take a deep breath and relax. think about what you want to do. you do have time to think.
06-06
Dade City, FL
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