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Boyfriend’s Brother Turns My Apartment Into a Horror Show 😳

I never thought my cozy apartment would turn into a place where I’m constantly on edge. My boyfriend’s little brother moved in after their parents got arrested, and suddenly, I’m living with an 11-year-old who treats privacy like it’s optional. He stares at me nonstop, barges into my room without knocking, and leaves the bathroom door wide open like he’s auditioning for a reality show. The final straw? I lent him my laptop for homework, and it came back loaded with porn. My boyfriend just shrugs it off, saying it’s normal. Am I losing my mind, or is this actually NOT okay? I’m so frustrated and honestly, I just want to feel safe in my own home again. What would you do if you were in my shoes? 😤🤦‍♀️ #relationshipstruggles #boundaries #awkwardliving #RomanticRelationships

2025-06-06
Valerie Willeto
11 year old boys should not be looking at porn, period! He needs therapy to help him with serious issues! Tell your boyfriend he and his bro need to find new living arrangements! good luck, Op!
06-06
Moncks Corner, SC
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Hilda Jones
I don't understand women just because he's your boyfriend's brother don't mean you have to let him move in your space what wrong with you 🤔🤔
06-06
Rock Island, IL
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Sally Martinez
That boy needs professional help. I would tell my BF that you didn't sign up to raise a rude, perverted, out of control kid, and you need him and his brother to move out. Tell him you understand his need to step up, but you have had enough of his brother and can't take him anymore. He isn't doing his brother any favors by laughing off his behavior.
06-06
Denver, CO
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Angela Dotson
Have boyfriend move out. Or, make the kid. your friend. He has no one except brother. parents in jail, imagine how awful his life has been. A little love, attention, listening to him, will work wonders. As an adult , you will have made a difference.
06-06
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Deborah Perry
She needs to move out and not let them know where she moved to! Be done! Those are the kind of people that don’t want to be better - they like themselves too much.
06-08
Miami, OK
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Salisbury Witch
Talk to his social worker and ask for help. It sounds like he’s been either ignored or sexually abused. Try to get him into counseling. If he does borrow your laptop put parental controls on it. Tell him if it comes back loaded with porn and junk, he’ll never tough it again.
06-07
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Joanne Armstrong Gallagher
Child has not been raised properly. Same with your boyfriend probably. If you really love your boyfriend and want to be family maybe therapy for all. If not time to end relationship which will only make boyfriend resent the child. Be very careful your dealing with real people and a child future. 🤔Good luck.
06-07
Bechtelsville, PA
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T.L. Sarcasm
The joy of middle schoolers. I remember when Clinton said he did not have sex with that woman. My 6th and 8th grade daughters asked me to define what is sex. The "boy" in your care has had free rain for quite a while, and you need to grab the bull by the horns immediately. 5 minute lecture segments after that they go tone deaf. Tell him no porn, it's not reality. Questions about sex feel free to ask. No sex until 18 and after graduation. Masturbation "only" while taking a shower. Ckeaner and less laundry. Yes, use the big words. Must be involved in a sport and club. Keep him busy. Parent control his phone and laptop. Write a living together expectations contract. Bullet points, simple language. Clear and concise. Make sure his brother is sitting next to you when you do it. Middle schoolers respect direct honesty even when they are being asses. Make sure you teach him to do his own laundry....that is a whole other nightmare your not responsible for. 😆
06-07
Lincoln City, Oregon
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s s
ok well your bf parents are BOTH in jail so obviously something serious has happened. the 11 year old has probably seen a lot of stuff happen. if you are wanting this to work with your boyfriend you all need to sit down and talk. no punishment no pointing fingers reassure the 11 year old he's not in trouble and see if he will open up to you both and tell you what he's been through. he is looking for attention and yes going about it the wrong way, however him getting into trouble was probably the only attention he ever received. so you need to talk with him get him to open up reassure him that you and your boyfriend are not going to leave him cuz that right there he's probably traumatized for the fact that both his parents were taken from him and in jail
06-08
Anchorage, AK
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