He Dumped Me Over Dinner Plans. WTF Just Happened?

Okay, so it’s 2AM and I can’t sleep because my brain is still replaying that phone call. I swear, I thought I was being reasonable. I asked my boyfriend (well, ex now, I guess) if we could hang out Friday. He said he’d let me know. Cool, whatever. The next day, my friends invite me to dinner Friday. Since he hadn’t confirmed, I said yes. I even told him, like, way in advance. He LOST IT. Full-on yelling, cursing, demanding to know who was so important. Like, dude, I just want to eat noodles with my friends, not cheat on you. He said I was disrespecting his time, that I should go date my friends. Then he straight up broke up with me over it. I feel like I’m losing my mind. Is this what dating in your 20s is? Because if so, I want a refund. We’re meeting to swap stuff later this week. Wish me luck. Or don’t. I’m so tired. #NoFilter #RedFlagAlert #AdultingFail #NoFilter #RedFlagAlert #AdultingFail #RomanticRelationships

2025-06-04

Hide My Emai

So he refused to give you a answer. Expected you to just sit around home waiting? Then get mad when you don’t?That’s a red flag. He’s controlling. The outcome is a lesson learned moment moving forward. 🌸

06-04

Annie_Howe

Don't be upset, be grateful he is showing you who he really is. If he tries to engage, be calm, level headed and thank him for showing his true self as it makes it easier for you to move on with your life. Say nothing else.

06-05

Cheetara_Thundercat

Yikes. He wasn't your boyfriend, you were something he amused himself with. Once you're over your shock, review the relationship - there may have been signs that he didn't respect or value you and you glossed over them. Next time you'll recognize the pattern. Be GRATEFUL you got away from him before he REALLY sunk his claws in. 😳

06-04

Lisa Sigelbaum

He will let you know… ok… You were his contingency plan. In the back of his mind You were there just in case nothing better came along. He didn’t and does not care about you at all No, this in not what dating at any she looks like Big big red flag Your time is valuable Don’t let him guilt you. If he wanted to be with you he would have said absolutely! Exchange your things and don’t look back

06-04

Pembroke Pines, FL

Malisa Greaves

You dodged a bullet young lady. Your special someone will come along eventually. In the meantime, Love yourself. Work and Pray hard. Enjoy your youth. It's fleeting.

06-04

Brooklyn, NY

Deborah Stepman

Seems like it was the beginning of a control issue. Glad you got out while it was just the beginning of something far worse. It only gets better from here. Don't let him back into your life find someone who appreciates and value your time have you not made plans with your friends he would have made plans with his and you would have been sitting home all alone. His plans probably fell through so now he's upset with you keep moving on honey find someone better.

06-04

Washington, DC

She-babe

Actually, he didn't respond to your invitation to get together because he was waiting on a better offer. I'm not necessarily saying that there's someone else as much as I'm saying he wasn't particular about seeing you and when you decided to hang out with your friends after they offered and he hadn't made a decision....he snapped. That's just not a normal reaction. There's something else going on here. Sorry but he's exactly the kinda guy that I couldn't be bothered with....IJS

06-04

Jordan Dewayne

His lose., gigantic red flag. You are most likely better off by yourself. Take this time to find yourself and love yourself even if you are by yourself, you are never alone . Have faith.

06-04

Valdosta, GA

Shirley

That's a BIG RED FLAG,you need to run as fast as you can he sounds liked a disrespect guy cause as he starts cussing like that's I was just hang up on him, but if he was in my face l would have snap.

06-05

Shelbyville, KY

Karen V Criswell

He was waiting for an opportunity. But even so, you don’t need to be hooked up with an emotionally immature man/child.

06-04

Show Low, AZ

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