GlitteringGlacierMy mom puts all her control on me and my husband！
Ever since my husband and I tied the knot, my mom has turned into the self-appointed CEO of our finances. She constantly criticizes every little thing my husband does—like leaving the rice cooker on overnight or eating in our room (apparently, that's a roach invitation, even though we've never seen one!). If I dare defend him, she acts like I'm betraying her and my brother, who, by the way, does absolutely nothing around the house. My mom keeps telling me to "control" my husband and questions every dollar we spend, as if I'm supposed to run our marriage like a dictatorship. I love her, but her constant reminders about how marriages can fall apart are making me paranoid, and I catch myself snapping at my husband for things that never used to bother me. I feel trapped—she needs me, but she's ruining my sanity and my marriage. How do I set boundaries without losing my mind or my family? 😩💸 #FamilyDrama #MarriageStruggles #FinancialConflict #RomanticRelationships
2025-06-03
Jean Jacobs
Question….is your Mom cured married? Probably not and her actions may be part of the reason. Stop allowing your mother in your business, create boundaries and stick with them. When she begins to speak about boundary topics, cut her off, cut the visit or phone call short. Limit access to your home and personal information. Above all, you are no longer a child, this is your home, your husband, if you want to keep your relationship, keep your mother out of it.
06-03
Baltimore, MD
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Marnita lataille
would politely tell her you love her but there are boundaries when it comes to you and your husband's finances Also tell her you don't appreciate her doing on your husband.Are you living in her house if so start looking for another place to live.If she is at yours give her a time limit to move out
06-03
Keizer, OR
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Bertha Turla
time to move out and have a life for yourself and your husband. life would be best that way learning of eachother.
06-03
Sarasota, FL
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Clsky
Move away. If she’s always done this and treated you this way, you need to ghost booth get away from her.
06-03
Louisville, KY
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Alice Vemeyer
if she financially needs you to stay, you need to set some ground rules or tell her you are moving out.
06-03
Pompano Beach, FL
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Becky Shuller Anderson
sounds like you are living in HER house, so don’t eat in your room and turn off the rice cooker. She probably sees you spending money, while not paying her a dime and not contributing to upkeep of home
06-03
Tulsa, OK
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D a wn Bird
tell your mom this is my house, not yours, and please stop telling me to correct my husband
06-04
Phoenix, AZ
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Eric Richters
You darn lucky he is still there. Sounds like you bring baggage, not value. He will not last long
06-03
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LeoLa Williams
tell your mother to stay out of your marriage. what you and your husband do pertaining to your husband is none of
06-03
The Bronx, NY
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Guest
Your mother is too controlling. I would sit her down and politely inform her that your marriage is not her marriage and you don't want to destroy your marriage try to be overbearing. My wife tried taking advice from her family to control me, and it did not work out well. Also I have achieved far more than her family has for me to be taking their advice.
06-03
New York, NY
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