They Cancelled My BF’s Birthday Because I’m “Broke”

Why would anyone go to a birthday dinner and expect their meal to be paid for? Everyone pays for their meal. And they all split the cost for the birthday boy. That’s how most adult birthday party dinners work.

His parents are mooches. A party THEY want, but you pay for. Think I'd leave this sickening family. They will be after you forever to pay for everything. Next, wanna come live with you RUN

Anytime someone says, can you plan.... you say .. whose paying for what.. or simply ask what's the budget and they should get the fucking point. You can plan dinners and everyone can pay for themselves. As an adult, you can go meet up with people to celebrate their bdays and usually everyone pays for their meals and drinks and then splits the bday persons tab amongst them so the bday persons eats free - I've never seen it any other way unless it was a catered event with formal invites. Asking ppl to join you to celebrate someone's bday at a restaurant doesn't imply someone is paying for everyone. Why should everyone get a free meal, only the bday person should. And obv if someone has enough money to say hey, I got this.. great, but otherwise nobody should be expecting a free meal. I would never attend a gathering at a restaurant like this without having my own money to spend. Why would his parents think the girlfriend has money to splurge on a dinner for almost 10 people wtf 🤷

She's not the one having and planning the party. Her BF parents are. If they want the lady at a fancy ass restaurant let them pay for everything. Run honey, as far as your can!

Wait…the boyfriend’s mom asked her son’s girlfriend to help plan her son’s bday dinner AND expected her to pay for it all? Yeah….NO! My response to her would be…you go right ahead. I’ll plan something for just us two.

why would they expect you and your bf to pay for dinner on HIS birthday? They wanted it, they should being splitting the bill and covering at least him as well! How entitled are they?

Why are you having a birthday party if you are over 10yrs old? Reality is most people don't want to be there but go out of obligation.

I think the parents are in the wrong here. If they wanted something fancy and nice, they plan and they pay, or everyone pays for themselves. As a parent I can’t imagine asking someone to plan things for my child and expect them to pay for everything. Honestly, I think the parents didn’t like the girlfriend and was trying to find a way to put a wedge between their son and her.

His parents should either plan it and pay for it themselves be that it was the mother’s idea- OR- let invitees know that you’re all meeting for dinner in honor of his birthday and that everyone’s going to pay their own way. Pretty simple if you ask me.

I truly hope he took your side and understood the position that his parents put you in. It was just extremely wrong in every way shape and form. If your relationship does not survive due to this unfortunate incident, please know it was not your fault.