My Wife’s Love is Suffocating Me (And I Feel Like a Monster)

Okay, I know how this sounds. My wife is amazing—loving, devoted, a literal 1950s-housewife fantasy. And yet… I’m drowning. 😅 Since she retired, her entire existence orbits around me. Breakfast in bed, snacks on demand, non-stop "Honey, do you need—?" I zone out like a lobotomized husband, then panic-scramble to do laundry just so she’ll stop. I hide in the garage. I fake DIY projects. I pray for her to binge The Great British Bake Off so I can exist unsupervised for 20 minutes. Is this guilt? Claustrophobia? Or just the shock of going from latchkey kid to king of a too-perfect castle? I love her. But damn, I miss missing her. #MarriageStruggles #TradWifeProblems #TooMuchLove #BoomerConfessions

2025-05-27

Lois Klemens

I don't understand men. I really don't. instead of sitting down and having a sincere conversation with the person you live with, you write a complaint for others to pick apart. No wonder so many women are choosing to be alone.

05-27

Allison Park, PA

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Guest

You should be lucky she wants to give you so much attention. Be careful what you wish for. Include her in your DIY projects and let her do things with you. If you're tired of breakfast in bed, just inform her that you would like to eat in the kitchen once in a while and need a little change. Communication is key in a relationship. She's showing you love, give some back.

05-27

The Bronx, NY

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Latrice Sarver

When my husband retired, he wanted to do everything with me. I couldn't go to the grocery or the post office without him insisting that he go with me. I finally decided I had to talk to him honestly about it. He understood that those errands were opportunities for me to gather my thoughts and also a brief respite from interacting with people. Nine yrs later, we still do some mundane things together, but he's not offended when I want to do some things alone. Honest communication.

05-27

Dalton Gardens, ID

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Rosemary Fuller

It doesn't sound like she had a plan for herself after Retirement. That could be why she's so focused on you. How about sitting down and actually talking with her. What do you know about her likes and dislikes? Hobbies, interests? Help her find some focus on herself interests. She seems to be Mothering you. What about an adorable Puppy for her to lavish attention on? Painting or Art Classes? Yoga Classes for her health.There's a ton of things she can be directed to in any city, or lots of videos for self improvement. She needs a boost to get her directed towards herself.

05-27

Vancouver, WA

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Marnita lataille

Would just sit her down and tell her .I love you but I'm feeling overwhelmed with all the extra attention.Then ask her if she might find a hobby

05-27

Keizer, OR

Amicheled Arriens

I feel for this man. I NEED solitude, I pray sometimes to not HAVE to say a single word that day. Some people NEED that attention, but I AM NOT that person.

05-28

New Ulm, TX