FlickerFlairMy brother can eat and live for free, but I want all the bills covered 😤
I’m honestly fuming. When my dad lost his job during the pandemic, my husband and I moved in with my parents in Chicago, taking over their mortgage and all the bills. We thought we were helping them get back on their feet. Fast forward—my parents sell some land overseas and pay off their house. Great, right? Except my mom tells me our payments stay the same, even though there’s no mortgage now! I’m still covering everything: food, utilities, even her shopping trips. Meanwhile, my brother and his family show up for free Saturday lunches, and we don’t even eat the food! I can’t help but feel used. If my son was in my shoes, I’d want him to save, not bleed him dry. Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do if you were me? 😩🤯 #FamilyFinance #MoneyMatters #FeelingUsed #FamilyDrama #RomanticRelationships
2025-05-16
She-babe
Then move.... you're not obligated to stay. You helped them out and I hope that you also benefitted in some other way....but it's time to take your family and get your own place. Let your mom and dad know that you'll be moving out in a few months and that their income will be changing shortly and if you can negotiate an amount that's different from their previous mortgage, then I'd do that. I'd stop buying groceries for the whole house and only pay a portion of the utilities. If that's not satisfactory, then I'd immediately move to a rental. No hard feelings....but fair is fair!
05-16
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Jo Phillips
move out, just because their house is paid for does not mean its free, and just because they are your parents doent mean rent isnt due.
05-16
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Diane Newsom
if u stay, of course u will need to pay rent, help with utilities and a portion of the food. but not her shopping trips. set an agreed upon amount u will pay and put the rest back for your own house. the land overseas was a surprise to u, I think. they could have done that in the 1st place and u wouldn't have needed to uproot your family to come to their rescue.
05-16
Maryville, TN
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Salisbury Witch
Tell your mother that she’s not grateful for your help and move out. Tell her you want back the money you paid in since she’s trying to get you to pay her portion by bullying you.
05-16
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Marnita lataille
sounds like it's time for you and your husband to look for a new home.you did your part by lending them a helping.Sounds like there back on there feet.Time to move out and live your best life with your husband
05-17
Keizer, OR
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Alberta Porter
You have completed your mission to help them get back on their feet now go rebuild what you gave up to become the atm
05-18
New York, New York
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LJT
It’s your fault for continuing to let your parents use you. Move out!!!
05-16
Belmont, NC
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just my opinion
Hopefully, you can prove to a bank that you paid mortgage and utilities so that your own mortgage gives you credit. Enjoy your new home
05-17
Clovis, NM
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onceuponatime
You and your husband need to find your own place now. You did your part when they were in need. Time for them to get back to work so they can care for themselves. If need be they can rent out part of the house to help cover the bills.
05-18
Lake Panasoffkee, FL
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roxanne
You should be able to move out from your parents. You are done helping out
05-18
Luverne, MN
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