Connie BushToday is our son's 10th birthday.. husband's behavior making me feel sick to my stomach
It’s heartbreaking to admit, but I see a pattern I can’t ignore anymore. My husband has always acted jealous of our son. From the time he was a baby struggling with eating, my husband nitpicked every little thing at meals. Though it’s improved slightly, the way he talks to our son still hurts to watch—mocking him, poking holes in his ideas, making him feel small.Today was our son’s 10th birthday. Instead of hugs or words of encouragement, my husband called him a “turd” repeatedly while I was trying to share loving memories. It crushed me. When I tried to talk to him, he brushed me off, said I was "too sensitive," and told me to leave him alone.I'm torn between preserving our family and protecting my son’s spirit. I'm scared of the damage silence might cause.Has anyone else been through this? How did you find the strength to choose the right path? 💔#ParentingChallenges #EmotionalAbuseAwareness #ProtectOurChildren #FamilyHealing #BreakingCycles #Parenting
2025-04-28
Tina Brugioni
Your husband is a cruel bully. And you are a crappy mother to have subjected your poor son to his father's abuse for TEN FREAKING YEARS!! Get that poor abused child away from your husband! And for God's sake, file for sole custody. Your son deserves better.
04-28
Manassas, VA
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Susan Gabriello
Your husband is a narcissist. That type especially enjoys ruining special events like birthdays, when they aren't the center of attention.
04-28
Dyer, IN
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Mia Bills
Maybe do what the husband wants: leave. Take your son and get away from that abusive man. It’ll only get worse. And if hubby tries getting you to come back, ignore his so-called apologies and/or love-bombing. That’s how abusers suck you back in to the chaos. It’s a trick that abusers use to manipulate their victims.
04-28
Dallas, TX
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MoreLiterateThanYou
As a kid who grew up with parents like this.. me and all three my siblings abandoned our parents. They died alone, both from stroke and cancer, and we didn't even legally claim them. Your kid will grow up knowing you were part of the abuse for standing there and doing nothing but meekly complaining. Protect your kid, or get rid of your kid, or join in- don't wishy washy your hands and pretend you care when you refuse to do anything to actually stop it or protect the kid. You already know what you need to do. So either do it, or stop tlaking and pretending you feel bad. Feeling bad just makes you look like a victim, it does nothing for your child.
04-28
San Angelo, TX
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cr2
Yes I went thru my dadverbally and emotionally abuse me. My mother knew and did nothing. When he dropped dead at 42 (I was 15) I was left confused, joyful but angry. Very angry at my mother. I’m not happy with my behavior but I was so angry at not being protected. Parents protect your kids. Please!
04-28
Valdosta, GA
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Paula Denis
RUN, FOREST, RUN!!! Ur husband is nothing but a bully! Ur son’s self esteem must be in the toilet! How have u allowed this negative behavior for the last 10 yrs. STAND UP FOR YOUR SON!!!! This man is not worth sticking around for!
04-28
Manchester, NH
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Barbee Castillo
At this point you are just as responsible for your sons hurt as his mean dad is. It is your responsibility to protect your son, from all bullies. Especially the one in your own home.
04-28
Arroyo Grande, CA
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Barbara Smedley
that isn't love! protect your son at all cost. ⁰I would not let my husband bully my child! try counsellings first but if things don't improve, leave.
04-28
Fort Pierre, SD
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Nettie Bowie
If he’s done this for so long and ur still with him ur no better than him. The damage to ur son is already done and you helped do it!
04-28
Villa Grove, IL
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Glo
Your husband it’s a BIG JERK, sounds insecure to me. This man will leave a huge impact on this little guy. Your son will grow up, if he has children, he learned from his dadPlease leave your husband, your son will thank you when he gets olderAlso you will no longer be stressed or upset the way he treats your son, son deserves so much better
04-29
Aurora, IL
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