he said he'd burn the car seat if i buy one

Run. Take your baby and run. He cares more about controlling you than making sure your child is safe. If he loses control, He Will Hurt You and The Baby.

Do it for your child!! Please! Get away from him. Go empty the bank account and run! Go to your family and friends. He will always have control if you stay silent!! Get a restraining order! Let the courts know you were being held against your will in your own home! Your baby could be in harm's way! Just leave when he's at work! Don't look back! Don't believe the lies when he says he'll change cuz why would he? You are accepting his behavior as long as you stay. Good luck!

ask your parents to bring a truck and a car to your house when your husband is out and pack that truck with your essentials and go. Leave your car. I agree with other comments that it could have a tracker on it. File for a divorce asap. If you can lean on your family for a little while, it may be enough to get you started on your own. File for domestic violence grants through dhs in your area- he doesn't have to physically beat you for it to be DV. if he makes threats or shows up, call the police and file for an order of protection. Be safe.

You need to leave. Like yesterday. If that’s how he’s treating you and you stay, it’s going to eventually escalate to your child. Is this the kind of behavior you want around your child? Is this how you want your child to grow up? Is this the kind of person you want your child to be or end up with anyone like this? If you answered no to any of all of those questions then you need to get out. There are resources available out there to help you. And if you can, reach out to family. Get the hell out of there.

I just got out of a relationship like this. I'm guessing the car seat thing and not visiting your family without him are just the top of the iceberg. You probably get ridiculous criticism for the silliest things that shouldn't matter. He's probably at least shoved you around a little, if not fully beaten or strangled you. He probably calls you awful names. You probably think things can get better eventually because sometimes he listens and will briefly make small changes that look like he cares. I defended my ex for 12 years and finally got to the point where there was nothing left to defend. If you are in the situation I described, please don't wait 12 years to get out. I will be dealing with neck and back injuries for the rest of my life and he will treat your child the same way he treats you. If you leave, don't talk to him. He will try to sucker you back in. Get support from trusted people to help you stay strong. I wish you all the best, please be safe!

My ex was the same way. He didn’t want me going any where without him because someone might hit on me. After 12 years of isolation he ran off with his latest side piece. I married a man who trusts me and we do things together and apart. It is sooooo much nicer.

Trust us that have been there. Get the important paperwork and cash if possible and leave. It won't be long before he sells your car and turns off your phone...

Make your exit plans now! He is an abuser isolating you from your family and friends. This is about control. He's terrified you will expose his behavior. don't wait until until it's too late

You need to get away from him. He cares nothing about you or your child, he has no respect for you. His only concern is CONTROL. He is dangerous and it will get worse .